Good Morning friends! I hope this finds you all happy and healthy!
For those of you following me on my Social Media pages (Facebook, Facebook CHAT, Instagram), you would have seen our exciting family news that we moved to Tasmania only 2 weeks ago! I can not wait to tell you all about it and the adventures of getting here, but before I blog about that I wanted to chat to you about something that has been on my mind and heart for a while.
I have a love / hate relationship with social media. I think most business owners or bloggers that run their own pages would agree with me.
On a personal level I love that I get to stay in touch with family and friends, wherever they are in the World. I love photos and seeing others making memories. I love that in the busy world we live in, I can catch up with everyone and what they are up to 24/7. Even more so now that we have moved away from family, friends and our comfort zone and community.
On a business level I love the ease of staying in contact with so many people with the click of a few buttons, sharing recipes, supporting others in business and personal journeys, unexpected friendships made along the way and having others support and encourage me too. The genuine COTC friends and followers that allow me into their homes with my books, recipes, blogs and journey truly make this worthwhile and keep me going. These are not simply empty words, this is from the depths of my heart I give thanks to my loyal COTC friends.
However, there is a dark side to social media that you may have seen before. Internet ‘trolls’ that degrade, attack and are just simply horrible people. They seem to want to cause pain to others for the fun of it. Well at least that is what I assume is their motive, as I have no idea otherwise why they are so nasty. This can be as little as vulgar sexual comments on food pictures or people making rude and belittling comments because they disagree or don’t like something … when, let’s face it, they should simply move on and scroll past. I don’t for a second think we are all meant to get a long in life, however, I don’t think we need to be rude and argumentative for the sake of it. The bullying online can become as extreme as mass personal attacks when large pages and groups get on a high horse over something they don’t agree with, which causes unnecessary stress for business owners and bloggers and in some cases it results in businesses and pages shutting down. This is just so sad to see. This happened to a beautiful friend of mine recently who was horribly attacked on her page by hundreds of people, simply because they didn’t agree with what she does. I am so pleased though that she has come back fighting strong (with a band of amazing women holding her up) after shutting her page down for a much needed break first.
I think what most people forget is that there are REAL humans with REAL emotions running businesses and social media pages.
A few months ago I posted a photo of something I cooked for dinner with Lamb in it. I got several comments (which I deleted and banned) about animal cruelty and what a horrible person I must be etc. The VERY next night I cooked a Vegetable Soup …. guess what, I also deleted comments from people rudely saying it wasn’t a balanced meal as there was no protein etc in the meal.
Don’t get me wrong. We can all have opinions, that’s not what I am saying. But these comments I am talking about have offensive language and personal attacks. It is just not needed and acceptable to me.
A similar thing happened on Instagram. I got a comment asking ‘why’ did I post a boring, un-inspirational and ugly food photo and then not too far along someone commented how I make them ‘feel bad’ for always cooking fancy looking meals and lunches!
I laugh. I know I can’t please everyone. I no longer try.
However, a little while back I found myself stepping right away from posting anything even remotely ‘personal’ on any of my social media platforms and stuck to ‘business’ only. I was just too exhausted. I was becoming boring and someone I am not. Why should I put myself ‘out’ there when no matter what I do, people come running for miles to be negative.
I love the way life works though. Recently I got beautiful message from a loyal COTC friend asking if I was ok (keep in mind I have never met her and just see her comments pop up every now and then) as she missed ‘me’ and my ‘personal touches’ on my page.
I realized quickly I was bowing down to the negative people. It hit me that ‘they’ are always going to be there but it’s not them I want to please because some people are simply happy being unhappy.
So I am ‘keeping it real’. Keeping it me – for the people that love and enjoy the good with the bad, the fun with the boring, the utterly imperfect. Keeping it happy, raw, honest, supportive and encouraging. Keeping meat posts, vegetarian posts, boring photos of easy food, sometimes-over-the-top lunchbox photos, personal posts and ‘my’ journey.
That’s the best I can give you. Me. Keeping it real.
I hope you stick along for the ride.
Take Care of You,
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